Am I Selfish??

*sigh*

Sometimes I feel like I might be being selfish. Let me explain...

For those of you who may not know, my mother passed away 2 years ago. Only a year after she had been gone, my father decided to re-marry. He married a woman with whom he used to work (sounds shifty don't it?? Thats a whole 'nother story in itself...)

Anyway, at first I kept away from the two of them because I was not exactly sure how I was supposed to feel about it. I had different input from different people in my family as to how I should take the whole thing, yet I was still unsure of how to handle it. My dad and I are close, but after that marriage, and the way the marriage was done, I had to take some time off from him to sort my feelings out.

I decided that I better just deal with the situation because that is what I had to do to survive. Because I still lived with my dad and he supported me, I had to do what I had to do. So I started to spend time with him, his wife and her kids, just to make it LOOK like I was over the whole mess. Truth be told, i wasnt and still dont think I am.

To cut to the chase, it's been about a year and some change that i've been spending time with them and Im not having fun anymore.

Maybe it's because his wife is too clingy. Like she acts like she can't keep her hands off or that she has to go everywhere he goes. I mean, i understand they're married but geez lady!

Last weekend, I asked my dad to take me on base to buy groceries (they're a lot cheaper there). I was looking forward to the trip as I had not seen my father in a while and was looking forward to the one on one time. He gets to my apt, i go out to get in the car and guess who's in there...Im like "who the hell invited her?" Then i start to think maybe it's my fault for not specifying to my dad that i wanted it to be just me and him. But should i even have to do that? She really didnt need to come. She can get on base on her own and couldve went by herself. THEN when we get into the grocery store, they walk off and leave me. Its not like i cant grocery shop by myself, but it was just supposed to be me and my dad that day. My daddy/daughter shopping day was ruined and i was in a bad mood the rest of that afternoon.

So with all that being said, am i being selfish? I understand he's her husband now, but he was MY DAD first? Am I wrong for wanting to spend time with my father, minus her? She sees him every day, i might see him once a week, so what's fair??